The stereotypical view of an "only child" is a spoiled, self-centered brat.  Is that view valid or is it a bad rap?

I believe it's a bad rap.  However, my opinion might be biased as I am the 94-year-old father of a 65-year-old only child, my son.  Again, I may be prejudiced in thinking that, despite being an only child, he is one of the least self-centered, moat considerate, best adjusted and most successful people I know.  My definition of success isn't limited to finances but embraces all aspects of one's life.

I believe that the majority of one-child parents expect more from and set higher standards of conduct and performance for their child, which more often than not, results in the child's becoming an over-achiever and a highly successful adult.  I know it doesn't apply in all cases but my son's remarkable mother gave him a huge leg-up toward success in life by consciously not tying him to her apron strings and teaching him independence and self-reliance from a very early age.

Due to my awareness of the common perception of an only child, for the past 30 to 40 years I have made an attempt to evaluate or determine the success level of the people I knew as well as those I still know who have no siblings living or dead.  The results of my very unprofessional study reinforce my belief that the common view of this group as a whole is not justified.

My point in posting this blog is this.  I know there have been many extensive and well documented scientific studies on this subject.  I also know it's likely that many of them can be found on the internet.  However, my ability to access them is very limited due to my legal blindness.  It will be very much appreciated if one of you fellow bloggers will give me a link to a reliable  person or organization that has done research on this subject.  Thank you.

--Jim Hammond

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